Trans Threesome Rules for Couples

Threesomes are an extremely common fantasy, especially for men, more and more women are feeling the pull too. According to the research, 18% of men have engaged in a trans threesome. While triads can be fun, the fantasy and the reality are vastly different. Before I give you tips, I need to state a disclaimer: I do not recommend three ways for couples in committed relationships. I’m all for them for people in casual, non-committed situationships. But as a relationship therapist, I care most about the long-term impact on the couple dynamic, which leaves me with several concerns.

First, if the three way idea was sparked by boredom in the bedroom, bringing a new person into the mix disincentive you from putting energy and creativity into your sex life with your partner. Basically, it’s the lazy way out. You are no longer working to up your game and figure out new fantasy to explore, techniques to try, and preferences your partner may have that you haven’t yet probed. While a trans threesome may be exciting initially, it does not solve the longer-term issue of how to keep things fresh and become a better lover. I have also seen too many jealousy issue arise and emotional bonds form as a result of what was supposed to be meaningless sex. Sometimes, people who have a hard time with emotional intimacy find hard to maintain sexual interest in their long-term partners, for them, opening the relationship to other people are an ineffective Band-air and can stunt personal growth. All that said, if I haven’t scared you off from managing a trio, here is what you need to know to protect your relationship and enjoy the ride.

When choosing a partner, don’t make the fatal mistake. When it comes to picking the trans threesome, many couples gravitate to someone they know. This is a huge mistake. Inviting someone into the bedroom who one or both of you already have an emotional bond with makes it more likely that someone will have feelings. It will become a regular activity, or someone will get their feelings hurt. Picking up strangers at bars can be tricky. Fortunately, there are many apps like Transdr designed specially to help you out. Once you both agree of a potential partner, I recommend meeting her for an IRL date before inviting her straight to your bedroom, so you can make sure she’s true to her photo, test the chemistry, and see how it feels to take the next step.

Make a list of rules. Some couples make a no penetration rule. Others embrace a watch but don’t touch philosophy. It is important to go over every possible sexual scenario that you can think together and talk about what’s of time and what’s acceptable. Just because you are all getting naked together does not woman that it is no holds barred sexual experience. Physical rules should be established upfront in order for this to be an emotionally safe experience.

I just introduced some aspects of threesome rules here. There are still other important rules couples should know about.